Kids that are erupting and attacking their siblings, parents etc. are frustrated. If you want to change the problems in the home, stop trying to teach a lesson in the moment of stress but rather, go deeper and repair the connection.
Children go through so much frustration from the minute they get up and it’s not easy from that point until they go to sleep. Think about how many challenges we as adults have, imagine how many a kid has especially when they can’t seem things logically from such an early age. The main point is that we have to expect that our kids will have that frustration, but how do we keep the connection alive. When they are acting up, can you just change the topic, can you leave the lesson teaching at the moment and just give a hug? What can you do to just weather the situation and wait for a better time to teach? Just keep the connection alive.